Wednesday, March 27, 2013
Anniversary!!!
So you know you are a busy person when your visiting teacher has to remind you of an anniversary. Our wedding anniversary was on February 22nd...dont worry we remembered that one because it was 10 years married! But today was our 4 year anniversary of being sealed! So...happy anniversary to us!!! Times 2! Oh and of course thank you Sister Smithson for reminding us! You're the best!!
Jordan Age 5
You know when you know something is coming and you kind of chose to ignore it because it depresses you? Well this is that situation. I don't mean to make Jordan's post depressing, but knowing that Jordan is my last child and that is 5 and will be in kindergarten this year breaks my heart.
On the brighter side of things Jordan is 5! Wow what a year for him! He started pre-school, then we moved to he stopped, then he started again, then he stopped again cause it was really expensive. He is super smart though! He surprises me everyday! He is still sassy as ever! Those of you that talk to him often know what I am talking aboutl.
He was super excited to be out of Sunbeams in church. He is in a bigger group now. He has given his first prayer and his first talk in Primary. He constantly wants to do his shapes or numbers flashcards. See, I told you he is a smartie!
Even though he wants to be a big boy he still snuggles with his mama. :-)
I love you my bugs...you will always be my baby boy!
Love,
Mom
On the brighter side of things Jordan is 5! Wow what a year for him! He started pre-school, then we moved to he stopped, then he started again, then he stopped again cause it was really expensive. He is super smart though! He surprises me everyday! He is still sassy as ever! Those of you that talk to him often know what I am talking aboutl.
He was super excited to be out of Sunbeams in church. He is in a bigger group now. He has given his first prayer and his first talk in Primary. He constantly wants to do his shapes or numbers flashcards. See, I told you he is a smartie!
Even though he wants to be a big boy he still snuggles with his mama. :-)
I love you my bugs...you will always be my baby boy!
Love,
Mom
Friday, March 22, 2013
David Age 8
So here we are another year later and I havent even blogged for a year! SLACKER mom! I always do reflections of my children around their birthday and today after I wished David a happy birthday, I remember that I always do a reflection of their past year.
David has had a very rough year of trials. We have literally been through thick and thin. This year I noticed my heart get even more tender than I thought it could for my child. Knowing some of the things he has been through and some of the things he will have to deal with in the future.
He is such a tender hearted child and I hate that it has taken me a few years to learn how to help him deal and cope with the issues and troubles he has. With that said I found that I grew to love you more as a mom even though I didnt think that was possible either.
I heard recently that a mothe cant love an adopted child as much as she can a child she gave birth to herself. That is NOT true. My heart breaks for people who think that way and think you can never open your heart to a child who needs a loving home and family.
Now that David is eight. I am excited for his Baptism and to see him grow and learn more. He is learning how to read books that I remember reading as a child. I love watching him read and then understand what he has read as he re-tells me what he read. He is awesome at math! He keeps coming home with 100% on his math tests! What a smart kid! He has started scouts and is trying vey hard to pass off his Bobcat so he can be a Wolf. He was nervous at first but now I see the ambition he has to succeed in Cub Scouts and move up.
I love you David Frary. I am so glad you are my child. I am so glad you were entrusted to us and I am SO glad you are in our eternal family.
Love,
Mommy
David has had a very rough year of trials. We have literally been through thick and thin. This year I noticed my heart get even more tender than I thought it could for my child. Knowing some of the things he has been through and some of the things he will have to deal with in the future.
He is such a tender hearted child and I hate that it has taken me a few years to learn how to help him deal and cope with the issues and troubles he has. With that said I found that I grew to love you more as a mom even though I didnt think that was possible either.
I heard recently that a mothe cant love an adopted child as much as she can a child she gave birth to herself. That is NOT true. My heart breaks for people who think that way and think you can never open your heart to a child who needs a loving home and family.
Now that David is eight. I am excited for his Baptism and to see him grow and learn more. He is learning how to read books that I remember reading as a child. I love watching him read and then understand what he has read as he re-tells me what he read. He is awesome at math! He keeps coming home with 100% on his math tests! What a smart kid! He has started scouts and is trying vey hard to pass off his Bobcat so he can be a Wolf. He was nervous at first but now I see the ambition he has to succeed in Cub Scouts and move up.
I love you David Frary. I am so glad you are my child. I am so glad you were entrusted to us and I am SO glad you are in our eternal family.
Love,
Mommy
Monday, March 26, 2012
Reflections of Jordan Age 4
I can not get over the Jordan is 4. He was still in diapers when I got him, barely off of a bottle could barely speak and just all out still a baby...my baby! This year I have learned a different kind of patience with Jordan...the patience of letting Jordan talk......and talk and talk and TALK! He talks...ALL THE TIME! We are frequent user of the 1.2.3 quiet game at home and in the car!
This year Jordan moved from the nursery at church to a Sunbeam. His hardest struggle (and still is) is that he just wants to play at church, not sit and listen. So, well, that is still a work in progress. But he loves to come home and sing...and he also loves to brag that he is the first one to get a sucker from the Bishop after church. He knows his entire alphabet (which I think is cool because we were still working on David's alphabet in kindergarten) so makes me know he is a smarty pants!
He has to do everything on his own...going potty, brushing his teeth, getting dressed, etc. And this morning while we were getting ready for the day as a family he informed me that he is 4 years old (held up four fingers on his hand) and said "mommy I am this many now so you don't have to take care of me anymore!" :-(
So this year he gets to start pre-school as well. And he is SUPER excited. He is always jealous that brother is doing homework and reading (might as well hype that up while I can before I start to argue with him about doing his homework).
So here's to his 4th year and getting ready for age 5 and the big word...wait for it...KINDERGARTEN! I don't think there is enough meds in America for when my last kid starts kindergarten. Oh yeah and I feel bad for his future teacher as well. He sure does keep his Sunbeam teachers on their toes...and you think I am kidding? Trust me...my kid I am sure is the kid they hope doesn't show up...lol!
So Happy Birthday BUGS! We love your little fiesty heart!
This year Jordan moved from the nursery at church to a Sunbeam. His hardest struggle (and still is) is that he just wants to play at church, not sit and listen. So, well, that is still a work in progress. But he loves to come home and sing...and he also loves to brag that he is the first one to get a sucker from the Bishop after church. He knows his entire alphabet (which I think is cool because we were still working on David's alphabet in kindergarten) so makes me know he is a smarty pants!
He has to do everything on his own...going potty, brushing his teeth, getting dressed, etc. And this morning while we were getting ready for the day as a family he informed me that he is 4 years old (held up four fingers on his hand) and said "mommy I am this many now so you don't have to take care of me anymore!" :-(
So this year he gets to start pre-school as well. And he is SUPER excited. He is always jealous that brother is doing homework and reading (might as well hype that up while I can before I start to argue with him about doing his homework).
So here's to his 4th year and getting ready for age 5 and the big word...wait for it...KINDERGARTEN! I don't think there is enough meds in America for when my last kid starts kindergarten. Oh yeah and I feel bad for his future teacher as well. He sure does keep his Sunbeam teachers on their toes...and you think I am kidding? Trust me...my kid I am sure is the kid they hope doesn't show up...lol!
So Happy Birthday BUGS! We love your little fiesty heart!
Friday, March 23, 2012
Reflections of David Age 7
I am a day late...but here is my year in review with David for his birthday. First off, he said he doesn't want to turn 8 and he doesn't want to get baptized. I think he is scared because his dad has joked with him about keeping him under the water when he gets baptized...Jordan is scared too...good one honey. :-) But we assured him that is not how it works and Shon will practice here and there with him in the next year so he has a better idea of how it really is.
Anyways, this year was almost tougher than last year with David. I thought it would get better and instead it got worse. We had David in counseling and I really did not like how that was going (blaming the counselor more) with David. So I pulled him and things seemed to be fine, but in the last 4 month it has taken a drastic turn. I found myself more and more angry with him. I was losing a lot of patience with him and found I was walking away from him way more than I should as a mom because I was going to freak out on him. David was more sad, more angry and acting out more than he ever has.
Recently, thanks very much to a very very dear friend of mine whom really came to my rescue. I was literally in tears with David. I felt like a failure, I had no idea what to do next. The help I knew we needed to get him was WAY out of price range for us. I was praying harder than I think I ever had for me AND for David. I was asking my husband for priesthood blessings. I knew that this was beyond my power and strength as a mother. I needed something more.
My friend introduced us to something call color therapy. He works out his "story" and emotions with colors and makes a book of his story or what he wants to talk about that day. Her mother is going through school at the moment and needs some clients as she is going through. I have met her mother and I felt very comfortable with her processing David. Sessions can cost 35-200+. Since her mom is still working on her license, she agreed to do some sessions for free! And to boot she knows someone who is working on getting us some discounted sessions.
David has so far gone to one session of color therapy and we already noticed a difference. IN ONE DAY! And we weren't the only ones. I didn't even go to therapy with him and I realized I was having more patience with him, I was apologizing more to him when I was losing my patience with him and I was making sure I was telling David I love him more...I do several times a day (well in the morning and night) but I was making sure he aknowledged that I said to him that I love him. I won't go in to detail on what came out during his color therapy session, but it was deep and it was heart breaking. It was all about his past and how he felt today about his past. I said my prayers that night and my heart broke for my precious child. The things he really does remember and the things that affect how he feels today about his family.
I know my family is blessed with the great friends we have, and David in particular to this true blessing of a friend that introduced us to this type of therapy. We can hopefully now resolve most (I say most because I don't think he will ever be able to forget his past) of what has happened in the past. I pray my child can look to the future and know that we love him with out a doubt in our minds, biological parents or not and that he will always be apart of our family no matter the good or the bad that comes from him.
David, I love you with all of my heart and I will make it my goal as a mother to you to make sure you know what that love feels like and means. I would never change anything about how you came to us. You are a special part of this family and we all love you so very much. I love you son and happy 7th birthday!
Anyways, this year was almost tougher than last year with David. I thought it would get better and instead it got worse. We had David in counseling and I really did not like how that was going (blaming the counselor more) with David. So I pulled him and things seemed to be fine, but in the last 4 month it has taken a drastic turn. I found myself more and more angry with him. I was losing a lot of patience with him and found I was walking away from him way more than I should as a mom because I was going to freak out on him. David was more sad, more angry and acting out more than he ever has.
Recently, thanks very much to a very very dear friend of mine whom really came to my rescue. I was literally in tears with David. I felt like a failure, I had no idea what to do next. The help I knew we needed to get him was WAY out of price range for us. I was praying harder than I think I ever had for me AND for David. I was asking my husband for priesthood blessings. I knew that this was beyond my power and strength as a mother. I needed something more.
My friend introduced us to something call color therapy. He works out his "story" and emotions with colors and makes a book of his story or what he wants to talk about that day. Her mother is going through school at the moment and needs some clients as she is going through. I have met her mother and I felt very comfortable with her processing David. Sessions can cost 35-200+. Since her mom is still working on her license, she agreed to do some sessions for free! And to boot she knows someone who is working on getting us some discounted sessions.
David has so far gone to one session of color therapy and we already noticed a difference. IN ONE DAY! And we weren't the only ones. I didn't even go to therapy with him and I realized I was having more patience with him, I was apologizing more to him when I was losing my patience with him and I was making sure I was telling David I love him more...I do several times a day (well in the morning and night) but I was making sure he aknowledged that I said to him that I love him. I won't go in to detail on what came out during his color therapy session, but it was deep and it was heart breaking. It was all about his past and how he felt today about his past. I said my prayers that night and my heart broke for my precious child. The things he really does remember and the things that affect how he feels today about his family.
I know my family is blessed with the great friends we have, and David in particular to this true blessing of a friend that introduced us to this type of therapy. We can hopefully now resolve most (I say most because I don't think he will ever be able to forget his past) of what has happened in the past. I pray my child can look to the future and know that we love him with out a doubt in our minds, biological parents or not and that he will always be apart of our family no matter the good or the bad that comes from him.
David, I love you with all of my heart and I will make it my goal as a mother to you to make sure you know what that love feels like and means. I would never change anything about how you came to us. You are a special part of this family and we all love you so very much. I love you son and happy 7th birthday!
Friday, March 2, 2012
Deep Breath...
We have been pretty busy, not that anything else is new right? On the 25th Shon, myself, David and Jordan were all sealed together in the Mount Timpanogos Temple. It was such a sweet spirit that was there. We had so many friends that showed up, it was amazing! Even the friends that couldn't make it were so kind to text that morning or email. We truly have great friends!
I started my new job at Intermountain Healthcare. I have been there for...well about a month I think...
I LOVE it there. Everyone is awesome. They are work hard and play hard which is totally what I love! Everyone is so willing to help...management too! It's a nice fresh breath of air.
Afterwards we ate at Chuck-a-rama. It was pretty low key. That is really the only place most people like in the family, so we went with it (even with rude comments from others). But it was our day and we tried to make it comfortable for most people.
I know my blog is getting less and less updated. I am working full time as does Shon and even though others may not agree with that, it is our decision and our kids will learn the true meaning of work.
I love my job as does Shon so why change something you like? So in my free time, I am writing less on my blog and spending it with my children. That is how Shon and I were raised and I think we turned out just fine. We may not own our own home or have money come out of our ears but we can provide for our children and give them what they need with no hesitation. We have learned our lesson of making rational decisions and we have worked for the things we have in our home now that we own as well as two vehicles that run great! Who could ask for more? :-)
Anyways, with that said I am working on Christmas gifts! Yup that's right! I know exactly what I want to make my nieces and nephew so I am working on it now! They will all take some time to do, so I have to get started now or they wont be Christmas gifts...well they will be Christmas gifts in like 3 years...hahaha.
In other news it's March, which means David and Jordan have birthdays this month!!! I have no idea what we are doing yet, but it will be fun!
Will keep ya posted!
Love,
I started my new job at Intermountain Healthcare. I have been there for...well about a month I think...
I LOVE it there. Everyone is awesome. They are work hard and play hard which is totally what I love! Everyone is so willing to help...management too! It's a nice fresh breath of air.
Afterwards we ate at Chuck-a-rama. It was pretty low key. That is really the only place most people like in the family, so we went with it (even with rude comments from others). But it was our day and we tried to make it comfortable for most people.
I know my blog is getting less and less updated. I am working full time as does Shon and even though others may not agree with that, it is our decision and our kids will learn the true meaning of work.
I love my job as does Shon so why change something you like? So in my free time, I am writing less on my blog and spending it with my children. That is how Shon and I were raised and I think we turned out just fine. We may not own our own home or have money come out of our ears but we can provide for our children and give them what they need with no hesitation. We have learned our lesson of making rational decisions and we have worked for the things we have in our home now that we own as well as two vehicles that run great! Who could ask for more? :-)
Anyways, with that said I am working on Christmas gifts! Yup that's right! I know exactly what I want to make my nieces and nephew so I am working on it now! They will all take some time to do, so I have to get started now or they wont be Christmas gifts...well they will be Christmas gifts in like 3 years...hahaha.
In other news it's March, which means David and Jordan have birthdays this month!!! I have no idea what we are doing yet, but it will be fun!
Will keep ya posted!
Love,
Monday, January 23, 2012
Time away...
I just can't ever seem to get some time to sit on here and make a post! Things are still crazy as ever! I love the weekends where I have NOTHING to do and NOWHERE to go! Sadly, those are few and far between.
I boringly dont have much to annouce besides THIS!
Yes, we know...it has taken us a VERY long time to get here. You never think how many things come up and excuses you make when it comes to the temple. So we are OUT of excuses are super excited to have our two precious boys sealed to us!
Oh, I guess I do have MORE news. I have accepted a position with Intermountain Healthcare. I start on Monday! And Shon is quitting his second job for another job with slightly less hours. In other words, I have him home on the weekends again! Cleaning here we come...oh I mean, quality time with my husband (wink).
I am still not quite sure how I schedules are going to pan out but we have faith this is what we are suppose to be doing and this is the direction we should be going at this time. So here's to some movie/family nights!
I boringly dont have much to annouce besides THIS!
Oh, I guess I do have MORE news. I have accepted a position with Intermountain Healthcare. I start on Monday! And Shon is quitting his second job for another job with slightly less hours. In other words, I have him home on the weekends again! Cleaning here we come...oh I mean, quality time with my husband (wink).
I am still not quite sure how I schedules are going to pan out but we have faith this is what we are suppose to be doing and this is the direction we should be going at this time. So here's to some movie/family nights!
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
House of chaos...and we LOVE it!
Feel priviledged...y'all got two posts in one day...in ONE MONTH at that! So I was looking at how many posts I did this year, compared to last year and the year before. Well now it's like less than half posts from two years ago. I'm a busy mom, ok?
Anyways. Ashton is getting his Arrow of Light for scouts! We are SO proud of him and his accomplishment. He has been working really hard for this. I willhopefully take some pictures and post them later!
Anyways. Ashton is getting his Arrow of Light for scouts! We are SO proud of him and his accomplishment. He has been working really hard for this. I will
Blessed!
Let's face it. Sometimes Shon and I do things backwards...well ok, most of the time. So...the boys are finally getting blessed in our Church. My cute sister in law made our little annoucements again. Like always...cause she loves me. :-) So here they are. We have invited family and close friends/ward members. But look for the Sealing invite in February. They are being sealed to up on our wedding anniversary. Cute eh?
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Mommy and Me Interview 2011
I want to get Ashton's answers too, cause, well, he is my son too I mean he was 18 months when I met Shon and now he is almost 11! Eeek! Anyways, enough of that tangent. I saw this a few years ago and I keep stumbling across is, so I gave in. Hopefully I will remember to do this every year. Their answers are really funny and I can only imagine what Ash will say! Please note my outbursts initial reaction to their answers are in (parenthesis).
Done October 2, 2011
What is something Mommy always says to you?
Dave: I love you
Jordan: Be quiet
What makes Mommy happy?
Dave: Giving you a hug
Jordan: Being Good, and being in trouble doesn’t make you happy (with a scrunchy face)
What makes Mommy sad?
Dave: When you ask for a soda and we tell you “no” but then daddy gets it for you.
Jordan: You are sad when daddy drinks your soda.
(Do you think my children know that I am obsessed with soda?)
How does Mommy make you laugh?
Dave: By tickling us
Jordan: um, tickle!
What was Mommy like as a child?
Dave: Happy
Jordan: At church! (I am not sure what that means)
How old is Mommy?
Dave: uh…I don’t know…86! (Really Dave? Really?)
Jordan: Um, 6! (I will totally take that age!)
How tall is Mommy?
Dave: Kinda big!
Jordan: You are bigger!
What is Mommy's favorite thing to do?
Dave: cook, make stuff!
Jordan: make clothes (hmm, never done that)
What does Mommy do when you're not around?
Dave: Sew, watch movie or go shopping
Jordan: go shopping (he kinda got that idea from Dave)
If Mommy becomes famous, what will it be for?
Dave: guitar playing, if only we had a guitar
Jordan: uhm, Jesus Christ… (what?!)
What is Mommy really good at?
Dave: Sewing (um, not so much)
Jordan: at church (this kid is cracking me up!)
What is Mommy not very good at?
Dave: you are not really good at moving the couch by yourself
Jordan: church (lol)
What does Mommy do for her job?
Dave: get shots for the children (actually I don’t, but I see it everyday)
Jordan: um, movies?
What is Mommy's favorite food?
Dave: Chinese food! (good answer Dave)
Jordan: um, let me show you (then he points at the dirty pot of potatoes that I made for dinner)
What makes you proud of Mommy?
Dave: that you give me some food and drink
Jordan: um, pizza? (seriously child?)
If Mommy were a cartoon character, who would she be?
Dave: a camel (seriously?)
Jordan: Lightning McQueen! (lol)
What do you and Mommy do together?
Dave: watch movies and go to the store
Jordan: watch movies
How are you and Mommy the same?
Dave: We have the same skin
Jordan: I don’t know
How are you and Mommy different?
Dave: Cause boys don’t have long hair
Jordan: Eyes are different
How do you know Mommy loves you?
Dave: giving us ice cream (sounds like a bribe to me)
Jordan: be happy and give you a hug
Where is Mommy's favorite place to go?
Dave: McDonalds (barf!), oh mommy, I mean In N Out Burger.
Jordan: grandma’s (I think he thinks I was asking his favorite place)
Hope you enjoyed a good laugh...
Done October 2, 2011
What is something Mommy always says to you?
Dave: I love you
Jordan: Be quiet
What makes Mommy happy?
Dave: Giving you a hug
Jordan: Being Good, and being in trouble doesn’t make you happy (with a scrunchy face)
What makes Mommy sad?
Dave: When you ask for a soda and we tell you “no” but then daddy gets it for you.
Jordan: You are sad when daddy drinks your soda.
(Do you think my children know that I am obsessed with soda?)
How does Mommy make you laugh?
Dave: By tickling us
Jordan: um, tickle!
What was Mommy like as a child?
Dave: Happy
Jordan: At church! (I am not sure what that means)
How old is Mommy?
Dave: uh…I don’t know…86! (Really Dave? Really?)
Jordan: Um, 6! (I will totally take that age!)
How tall is Mommy?
Dave: Kinda big!
Jordan: You are bigger!
What is Mommy's favorite thing to do?
Dave: cook, make stuff!
Jordan: make clothes (hmm, never done that)
What does Mommy do when you're not around?
Dave: Sew, watch movie or go shopping
Jordan: go shopping (he kinda got that idea from Dave)
If Mommy becomes famous, what will it be for?
Dave: guitar playing, if only we had a guitar
Jordan: uhm, Jesus Christ… (what?!)
What is Mommy really good at?
Dave: Sewing (um, not so much)
Jordan: at church (this kid is cracking me up!)
What is Mommy not very good at?
Dave: you are not really good at moving the couch by yourself
Jordan: church (lol)
What does Mommy do for her job?
Dave: get shots for the children (actually I don’t, but I see it everyday)
Jordan: um, movies?
What is Mommy's favorite food?
Dave: Chinese food! (good answer Dave)
Jordan: um, let me show you (then he points at the dirty pot of potatoes that I made for dinner)
What makes you proud of Mommy?
Dave: that you give me some food and drink
Jordan: um, pizza? (seriously child?)
If Mommy were a cartoon character, who would she be?
Dave: a camel (seriously?)
Jordan: Lightning McQueen! (lol)
What do you and Mommy do together?
Dave: watch movies and go to the store
Jordan: watch movies
How are you and Mommy the same?
Dave: We have the same skin
Jordan: I don’t know
How are you and Mommy different?
Dave: Cause boys don’t have long hair
Jordan: Eyes are different
How do you know Mommy loves you?
Dave: giving us ice cream (sounds like a bribe to me)
Jordan: be happy and give you a hug
Where is Mommy's favorite place to go?
Dave: McDonalds (barf!), oh mommy, I mean In N Out Burger.
Jordan: grandma’s (I think he thinks I was asking his favorite place)
Hope you enjoyed a good laugh...
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